“I am here to show you the changed face of domestic violence – the face that cried, the face that witnessed her child being buried; the face that sees the same pain in others; I am here to show you the other side of domestic violence – the side of being a survivor, of healing, contentment, enormous inner strength, empowerment and confidence; the side that stands for something, instead of hiding from everything.
I am here so you can hear the voice of a survivor – the voice that motivates, inspires, and encourages; the voice that no longer uses the word “victim”; the voice that speaks for those who are fearful, the voice for those who have lost their lives because there was no one to protect them; and to keep a promise I made at my daughter’s grave over 20 years ago – that her death would not be in vain.”
Ivette Attaud’s speech at a Chaplain’s meeting, Bronx, New York
Ivette Attaud, is a social entrepreneur, domestic violence survivor for over twenty years, and a passionate and gifted author.
After years of extreme violence, abuse, a suicide attempt, a violent physical assault while pregnant with twins that resulted in the death of one of her daughters, a broken shoulder and spousal rape, Ivette left with her two surviving children and returned to New York.
Ivette has received numerous awards for her advocacy work in raising awareness about domestic violence, which promotes healing and empowerment. She has served on the Battered Women’s Justice Committee of Voices of Women Organizing Project in New York as well as contributed research regarding law guardians to their report Justice Denied: How Family Courts in NYC Endanger Battered Women and Children.
She developed and facilitated a domestic abuse educational workshop for the faith-based community called Healing The Body Before The Spirit, which was highly received. For her work in raising awareness about domestic violence and being an inspiration to others, Ivette was honored with the Still I Stand award at the Pain of a Blaque Woman Conference in 2013. Her passion for raising awareness about healing and empowerment was also well received by attendees at the Pain of a Blaque Woman Conference in 2012 when she shared her story of transition from Victim to Victor.
After 10 years of writing, she broke her silence with her first self-published book, My Life My Soul, Surviving, Healing And Thriving After An Abusive Relationship, Part 1 which was released in 2011 under MLMS Publishing, an independent publishing company and subsidiary of My Life My Soul, The Unspoken Journey of Life After Domestic Abuse.
Her book chronicles her experience with teen dating violence and domestic violence and serves as a resource not only for survivors of relationship abuse, but for friends, families and professionals who work with victims of violence and trauma.
Ivette also created, produced and hosted My Life My Soul Talk Radio, a weekly radio show centered on raising awareness and promoting ways to heal from the effects of violence and abuse.
As part of her advocacy work, Ivette visits local high schools and colleges and participates in community forums to talk about relationship violence and its red flags. She has published numerous articles, including Surviving the Loss of a Child for Spotlight on Recovery Magazine . She has appeared on New York television shows BronxNet’s OPEN with host Dr. Bob Lee and Healing Touch with host Gina Miller.