“I am here to show you the changed face of domestic violence – the face that cried, the face that saw the death of a loved one; the face that sees the same pain in others; I am here to show you the other side of domestic violence – the side of healing, contentment, enormous inner strength, empowerment and confidence; the side that stands for something, instead of hiding from everything.
I am here so you can hear the voice of a survivor – the voice that motivates, inspires, and encourages; the voice that no longer uses the word “victim”; the voice that speaks for those who are fearful, the voice for those who have lost their lives because there was no one to protect them; and to keep a promise I made at my daughter’s grave over 20 years ago – that her death would not be in vain.”
Ivette Attaud’s speech at a Chaplain’s meeting, Bronx, New York
Ivette Attaud has been a survivor of domestic violence and abuse for over 25 years, and counting. Having survived a violent dating relationship and destructive marriage to her abuser, a Staff Sergeant in the Army, she managed to break the chains of her abuser and rebuild her life.
After five years of extreme violence, abuse, a suicide attempt, a violent physical assault while pregnant with twins that resulted in the death of one of her daughters and a broken shoulder, Ivette left with her two surviving children and returned to New York.
Ivette served on the Battered Women’s Justice Committee of Voices of Women Organizing Project in New York as well as contributed research regarding law guardians to their report Justice Denied: How Family Courts in NYC Endanger Battered Women and Children.
To educate the religious community, she created and facilitated a domestic violence and abuse training for Chaplains called Healing The Body Before the Spirit and has talked to teens in various NYC high schools about dating violence. After 10 years of writing, she broke her silence with her first self-published book, My Life My Soul, Surviving, Healing And Thriving After An Abusive Relationship, Part 1 which was released in 2011 under MLMS Publishing, an independent publishing company and subsidiary of My Life My Soul, The Unspoken Journey of Life After Domestic Abuse.
Her book chronicles her experience with teen dating violence and relationship abuse and serves as a resource not only for survivors of relationship abuse, but for friends, families and professionals who work with victims of domestic violence.
Ivette was also the former creator, producer and host of My Life My Soul Talk Radio, a community awareness project of My Life My Soul, a weekly internet radio show centered on raising awareness and encouraging healing from the effects of violence and abuse.
She has also published an article in Spotlight on Recovery Magazine entitled, Surviving the Loss of a Child.
Ivette is also currently working on Part 2 of My Life My Soul that addresses healing from an abusive relationship, to be published by 2015.